More 7 Habits notes

Habits 1, 2, & 3 create the private victory, moving you from dependence to independence.
Habits 4, 5, & 6 create the public victory, moving you from independence to interdependence.
Habit 7 encircles the whole.

 

The Private Victory

 

Habit 1. Be pro-active (Principles of Personal Vision)

  • Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
  • Act vs. be acted upon – The opposite of pro-active is reactive
  • Listen to our language
  • Take the initiative
  • Responsible = response able
  • Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern (see copies of diagrams, Covey p. 81 – 85)

Habit 2. Begin with the end in mind (Principles of Personal Leadership)

  • Is the ladder of success leaning against the right wall?
  • Everything is created twice
  • Mission statements – Personal, family, corporate
  • Identifying roles & goals
  • Centers – see copies from Covey p. 119 – 124.

Habit 3. Put first things first (Principles of Personal Management)

  • Time management matrix
  • Principles of Interdependence

 

The Public Victory

The Emotional Bank Account plays an important role.

 

Habit 4. Think win-win. (Principles of Interpersonal Leadership)

6 Paradigms of Human Interaction

  • Win/Win
  • Win/Lose
  • Lose/Win
  • Lose/Lose
  • Win
  • Win/Win or No Deal

Habit 5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. (Principles of Empathic Communication)

  • Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood — or — Don’t prescribe before you diagnose!
  • Use Empathic Listening
  • Diagnose before you prescribe
  • Don’t use autobiographical responses.
  • This Habit is smack in the middle of your Circle of Influence!

Autobiographical responses are:

  • Probing
  • Advising
  • Evaluating
  • Interpreting

Habit 6. Synergy (Principles of Creative Cooperation)

  • Definition of Synergy
  • Synonyms
  • 1+1=3 or 4 or 100 or …
  • It is the basis for Principled Centered Leadership
  • Fish for the 3rd alternative
  • Value differences! (IDIC)

 

Renewal

 

Habit 7. Sharpen The Saw (Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal)

  • Principle of Balanced Self-Renewal
  • 4 Dimensions of Human Nature
    • Physical (Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management)
    • Social/Emotional (Service, Empathy, Synergy, Intrinsic Security)
    • Mental (Reading, visualizing, Planning, Writing)
    • Spiritual (Value Clarification & Commitment, Study & Meditation)
  • Balance in Renewal
  • Synergy in Renewal
  • Upward Spiral – Learn, Commit, Do, …

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